Recent events with Sue’s mother have reminded me of my mortality and the feeling that I would like express a few things to you before I check out of this world.
I am no great philosopher or intellectual but I have made a few observations about life which I am about to pass onto you.
Death-If you look at both the plant and animal kingdom you will see that all living things have a beginning and end. A time to be born and a time to die; man is no different. As life ends for some it begins for others and the beat goes on. My personal view is that something as intricate and miraculous as life had to have some thought and planning behind it. Be it God, Jehovah, the Great Spirit or some other name given by man to explain it all. I expect and hope that I will be missed by you and others and that a respectful amount of mourning will occur. However, the mourning should be short lived and not because I have died but because you will miss having me around. I mourned my mother and father’s death but with time the pain of that separation ended and the memories fade and become infrequent but do not disappear. As they say, “Life goes on.”
Being a parent- The most important thing you will ever do is to create another life. It is a responsibility that is often taken lightly. Unfortunately none of us come equipped with the knowledge and ability to be a parent. However, with love and understanding you can be a great parent. You just have to unlearn some of the bad parenting that you got from your mother and me.
Life is not about getting and accumulating things. Life is about people and your interactions with them.
Happiness- Happiness is not like climbing a mountain in that once you reach the top you are there forever. Happiness is a series of fleeting times in your life. Enjoy the moments and cherish them but don’t be surprised or disappointed that you are not continuously happy.
I’ve had a good life and my only concern in passing on is that I won’t live long enough to see you well established in your life.